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Be realistic & set boundaries

When embarking upon a long-distance relationship, it’s extremely important to manage your expectations right from the outset. Be realistic about where the relationship is headed, in combination with good communication with your partner so you know you’re both of the same mind.

It’s always advisable to discuss boundaries at the start of any relationship, but even more so with long-distance relationships where you don’t have the guidance of body language and the regular reassurance in-person meet-ups bring. Talk. Outline how you both envisage the relationship progressing, any limits you both may have, and ultimately, where you want the relationship to go.

Casual, no-strings attached fun relationships and deeply involved, looking-at-a-lifetime-together relationships are as good as each other, but you both need to be certain of the type of relationship you’re getting involved in and consent to all its related facets.

Keep in regular contact

They say, ‘absence makes the heart grow fonder’ -but they also say, ‘out of sight, out of mind’. Keep in regular contact with your partner. Don’t let far too long go by without staying in contact; keep those romantic fires well stoked.

That’s not to say you should bombard your partner with messages and calls at all hours, haranguing them to the point of harassment is, as well as being rude and wrong, a sure-fire way to end the relationship. Your level of contact will ideally be one of the topics discussed when setting your boundaries and needs at the outset. Communicate with your partner about how often you’d like to hear from them –and, if necessary, how much is too much.

Keep in regular contact

They say, ‘absence makes the heart grow fonder’ -but they also say, ‘out of sight, out of mind’. Keep in regular contact with your partner. Don’t let far too long go by without staying in contact; keep those romantic fires well stoked.

That’s not to say you should bombard your partner with messages and calls at all hours, haranguing them to the point of harassment is, as well as being rude and wrong, a sure-fire way to end the relationship. Your level of contact will ideally be one of the topics discussed when setting your boundaries and needs at the outset. Communicate with your partner about how often you’d like to hear from them –and, if necessary, how much is too much.

Set dates to look forward to

We all need something to look forward to, it makes every day that little bit brighter when you have an extra fun occasion marked on your calendar. A beacon of happiness on the horizon is even more pertinent in a long-distance relationship, where being physically apart from your partner is obviously a tough daily challenge.

Set a date in the future you can both look forward to, whether that’s meeting up once again or even meeting for the first time ever, depending on how your relationship began. Not only will having the meet-up date give you both something positive to hang on to in those dark lonely hours, it will help you to stay feeling connected to and bonded with your partner.

Communicate effectively

I’ve mentioned communication loads already –and it’s true, regularly talking with your partner is incredibly important in any relationship, and especially in a long-distance relationship where you don’t have that face-to-face aspect and the reassurance of physical contact. What’s more important than just having casual chats, though, is to communicate effectively.

What do I mean by that?

Keep the lines of communication all the way open and be approachable. Make sure your partner knows they can talk about anything to you, at any time. Relationships can drift and die because people keep deeper issues locked away inside, either bottling them up entirely or speaking about them to absolutely anyone else except their partner.

Don’t be afraid to talk about how you’re feeling, to ask how they’re feeling, and check in on ‘real’ issues rather than just keeping things light but ultimately non-meaningful all the time.

Maintain absolute honesty

Iearn the spirit of effective as well as regular communication, this one bears repeating. Be completely honest with each other. In a long-distance relationship especially, the trust element of a relationship is absolutely relied upon to keep the bond between you absolutely unshakeable. Once you start hiding things from your partner, whether that’s feelings or behaviours, the relationship will begin to crumble.

Secrets and lies erode romance and relationships, so maintain absolute honesty no matter what. The future of your partnership relies upon it.

My final thoughts on long-distance relationships? I believe they can work, but I’m not sure how long for. I certainly don’t think all long-distance relationships are doomed to failure, but I do believe that they take a massive amount of effort from both partners in order to keep the passionate momentum which started you on this path at the outset.

If a casual, no-strings attached hookup over the internet is what you’re after, without any intention of meeting in real life, then sooner or later I believe the interest will fade as one or the other person moves on to something new. For those who are looking for a long-term relationship, enjoying the partnership over distance rather than in person isn’t ideal and I don’t believe it contributes to the long-term success of a relationship. If nothing else, one or both partners will ache to physically be with the other person.

As I’ve mentioned earlier in this article, you both need to be honest about what you’re looking to gain from the coupling, if you want your long-distance relationship to ever really work. Keep in touch, act in the best interests of your relationship and your partner and make sure you are working towards the same goal, then you’ll have the best chance of enjoying long-term relationship happiness, no matter the physical distance between you.

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Classic Erotic Verse

1. “Delta of Venus” by Anaïs Nin

What it’s all about: A collection of daring short stories that take readers from crowded Paris cafes to the opium dens of Peru. Originally commissioned by a mysterious private client in the ’40s, the book has grown to be one of Nin’s most revered works.

Why you’ll love it: Nin creates rich imagery, brimming with sensuality and literary flourishes. Many readers remark on the emotional content of her work, even in the most scandalous of scenes.

2. “Lady Chatterley’s Lover” by D.H. Lawrence

What it’s all about: Stuck in a loveless marriage to a paralyzed war veteran, Constance Chatterley seeks comfort in the arms of her sexy gamekeeper, Oliver Mellors.

Why you’ll love it: While the sex scenes will get you hot and bothered, the story will also get you thinking about your own relationships and desires. Although it was penned in 1928, this novel’s themes of the need for physical and emotional fulfillment still resonate.

3. “Fanny Hill: Memoirs Of A Woman of Pleasure” by John Cleland

What it’s all about: Through a series of letters we learn about Fanny Hill, a sweet-natured young prostitute who rises above her station and marries a nobleman. Thankfully she enjoys a few orgies and one-night stands before settling down!

Why you’ll love it: Written way back in 1748, Fanny Hill is considered the world’s first English-language erotic novel. It was deemed so scandalous that the writer served jail time, and American companies refused to publish it until 1966!

4. “Story of O” by Pauline Réage

What it’s all about: Parisian fashion photographer “O” discovers the delight of a submissive lifestyle thanks to her lover, René, and new master, Sir Stephen.

Why you’ll love it: It’s the original “Fifty Shades” complete with charismatic male mentors and toe-curlingly kinky scenes. The novel was so provocative that French writer Anne Desclos published it under a pen name in the ’50s, and only admitted to writing it 40 years later! (Did you read “50 Shades?” Here are 9 Questions You Were Too Afraid to Ask.)

5. “Emmanuelle” by Emmanuelle Arsan

What it’s all about: This autobiographical novel introduces us to Emmanuelle, the wife of a French diplomat and a slave to her own desires. Not content with the loving arms of her husband, Emmanuelle also seeks pleasure with the wives of his business associates and handsome strangers.

Why you’ll love it: It’s uncertain whether Arsan really behaved as scandalously as the Emmanuelle in her book, but the autobiographical style gives the novel a sense of authority. You’ll want to believe it’s all true!

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Kinky Lit

1. “Lofting” by Alma Marceau

What it’s all about: Claire is a woman who wants to experience it all, whether it’s cyber-sex with her married virtual lover, Andres, or a real-life sexual encounter in a reptile house!

Why you’ll love it: “Lofting” goes beyond the popular BDSM story lines and delivers a more diverse selection of kinky stuff, including exhibitionism and voyeurism. You might even discover a new fetish among its pages …

2. “Bound” by Sasha White

What it’s all about: Katie Long is a small-town girl with dreams of meeting Mr. Right. Of course, she never imagined he’d come in the form of Joe Carson, a magnetic figure who introduces her to the darker side of sex.

Why you’ll love it: Katie is a relatable heroine for anyone who’s used to playing the good girl. You’ll feel inspired as Katie evolves from innocent young thing to a woman in touch with her sexuality.

3. “Slave To Love” by Nikita Black

What it’s all about: When Vice Sergeant Caroline Palmer isn’t exploring her kinky side with Lieutenant Michael McGraw, she’s helping him hunt down a sexual predator.

Why you’ll love it: Black skilfully blends erotica with a page-turning mystery. Caroline’s strong character should also appeal to readers who love heroines of substance.

4. “Summer’s Journey: Losing Control” by Summer Daniels

What it’s all about: Recently divorced Summer hopes for nothing more than a one-night stand when she connects with Mark online. Instead, the chance encounter leads Summer to discover the joy of surrendering control.

Why you’ll love it: The memoir style helps readers take the journey of self-discovery along with Summer . It’s also just the first in a series, so you can read it knowing there’s more to come!

5. “Fifty Shades of Grey” by E.L. James

What it’s all about: Suave and sophisticated entrepreneur Christian Grey introduces virginal college student Anastasia Steele to the pleasures of BDSM. This is the first in the best-selling “Fifty Shades” trilogy.

Why you’ll love it: It’s the novel that started the modern erotica revival! The writing is pretty basic, but reading it ensures you can participate in the water cooler discussion.

So what are you waiting for? Cozy up with one of these sexy reads tonight. They’re guaranteed to stimulate – and we don’t just mean your mind.

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Date night!

She did a quick snap for her Snapchat followers of her face up close, asking what lipstick she should wear. She pursed her lips for Magnetism, a deep berry-esque magenta. And for Berryram, which was obviously even more berry-filled than Magnetism.

Berryrama was the winner, and she applied it to her lips as she took yet another sip of her Manhattan. She walked down the hall in her apartment, saw her silhouette against the wall and it made her smile. All of her curves – even when seen out of proportion – pleased her. She started to sashay down the hall. She was not even the slightest bit tipsy. She couldn’t afford to be because she was very focused on what she was going to wear, and how she was going to make up her face. She had to look perfect. Nothing could be out of place. She had to look like a bombshell ready to be devoured.

The sound of her heels as they made contact with the floor below had to be perfect as well. She plucked the string of her thong out of her backside, but was happy that she was voluptuous enough to engulf the thin lace. The press of the crotch of her thong made her want to smooth the lace and cotton between her legs but she was not going to now.

There would be time for that later.

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Her reflection across from her in the full-length mirror was arousing to her as she sat on the toilet, her lace thong in a bunch at her knees and all of her curves on view. Her breasts gave the illusion of bubbling out of her bra as she leaned on her thighs – not that it took a lot for them to do that anyway. Looking at herself was a turn-on, almost like looking at herself as a cam model. Aubrey looked herself in the eyes as she took off her bra and let her breasts loose.

She was sure if you asked any woman, they’d rate taking off a bra as one of the best feelings. Her bra fell in a puddle at her feet, and she stepped out of the upper part of the matching lace set that she was wearing. Still watching herself closely, she rolled her breasts with both of her hands. She could smell a suggestion of chocolate still on her fingers, so she decided to stretch and pick one of the chocolates from the box, placing it on her thigh. Even though it was melting, she still took a mouthful of her Manhattan and kept her tongue circled around the brandied cherries that she had placed in it.

Since the chocolate was melted on her thigh, she scraped it off of her and licked it from her fingers. The place between her legs pounded – literally pounded – with need for her to circle it, instead of the cherries that she had been circling with her finger.

But she was not going to. She wanted to wait a bit until she could not bear it another moment. She bit her lip because she was not sure that this was not the moment that she could not bear, but she was not going to touch herself – not just yet.

Smearing her nipples with chocolate, she played with them and had to be careful because if she played with them too much she was going to come – and she did not want to come that way. But the sensation of playing with them made her throb all the more. She was desperate for release … but not yet. It would be so much better if she waited – good things come to those who wait – so she took in the sweet pleasure she was giving herself.

The sweet scent of chocolate and desire were driving her insane. Aubrey felt herself almost slipping off of the toilet seat as she squirmed with pleasure. Between her legs was like lava, because she was ripe at that moment for all of the pleasure in the world that she could give herself.

But she waited.

She took a deep breath and looked herself in the eyes again. She took another sip of her Manhattan, using her tongue to get one of the cherries that she had placed in it to chew on as she finally reached for herself. Spreading her legs wide, she could see all of her mysteries revealed to herself. She was in her domain. Mesmerized by her own motion between her legs, she moved against her finger, grinding – desperately now – because now she could not wait.

Now she needed more. Pulling at her nipple, she bounced up and down on the toilet seat, sweating and sliding. She never stopped looking at herself. She never stopped looking at the circles that she made with her fingers and her hips. She stared at herself as she slipped over the edge, her mouth open in an O as she hissed and squeezed her legs together. She still throbbed even when she moved her finger away.

Maybe she could go again?

But, then again, she had the entire night.The Manhattan, the gourmet chocolates and the sushi that was going to be delivered later. Aubrey got up and kicked her bra aside. She was going to spend the rest of the night alone and naked.

It was date night after all.

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Although many blogs remain a transcript of their owners’ personal lives, blogging is also a highly effective marketing tool across many industries. Adult e-commerce owners: are you blogging your business? You should seriously consider it. A regularly updated blog boasting relevant, top quality content doesn’t just educate and entertain your visitors – it boosts your website’s SEO.

Including blogging in your Search Engine Optimisation strategy leads to higher numbers of organic traffic to your e-commerce. Traffic who will not only have more easily found your website, but may be persuaded to become a paying customer while they’re there. Creating a blog for your e-commerce isn’t the only blogging-themed marketing route available to you, but it’s a great place to start.

Building Your Blog

Supporting your e-commerce with a great quality blog will help raise the visibility of your adult business online. A well-maintained blog helps to increase the elusive ‘footfall’ of web-based retailers.

Do consistently high levels of organic traffic sound good to you? Then stop fretting over those special offer graphics for a moment, and start building your blog.

There are two main ways to create a blog for your online store. You can use a blogging facility integrated with your e-commerce platform (if it has one) or you can install a blog which is linked from your main website, or installed alongside.

Current SEO trends advise that the most effective way to install your blog is in a subfolder, not a different domain. Therefore, it’s better to create http://www.myshop.com/blog/ rather than http://blog.myshop.com/.

Once your e-commerce blog is built, you’ll need to write and publish some blog posts so that even your very first visitor has something interesting to read. How do you capture and keep your audience’s attention? What sort of themes will persuade a reader to bookmark your blog so they can visit regularly? Your blog posts clearly need to be not only relevant to your adult business, but informative and entertaining.

A blog can be extremely effective as part of your business SEO plan – especially if you ensure you only publish content which is great quality and in keeping with your brand’s ethos. With so much to keep in mind, even deciding what you’re going to write about can seem like a daunting task.

Growing Your Blog Audience

Ok, so you’ve created your introductory blog posts and published them on your new and beautifully designed blog. Where’s all the traffic? Why aren’t there thousands of happy visitors being converted into paying customers?

There’s a lot more to it than publishing some blog posts then enjoying instantaneous success, sorry to say. For e-commerce businesses who don’t have a high volume of traffic or the support of a huge social media following, achieving a consistent visitor-to-customer conversion rate goes beyond crafting brilliant blog posts and waiting for the cash to roll in.

Social media is a fantastic promotional tool for your adult business and blog. For now though, let’s explore another blog-based marketing strategy.

Sexuality Bloggers

As well as running your own blog to support the marketing of your e-commerce, there are several established sexuality bloggers who provide various marketing services.

Adult industry bloggers (commonly known as sex bloggers) can help your e-commerce become more visible in terms of both organic and direct traffic. Backlinks from search-engine-authoritative sex blogs are incredibly valuable, as are contextual mentions of your adult business in blog posts and your engagement with the sex blogging community via social media.

How can you find sex bloggers who offer marketing support to adult industry businesses?

Gone are the days of browsing for relevant blogs then sifting through hundreds of blog rolls to create a ‘network spreadsheet’. Due to the lower levels of censorship for the adult industry on Twitter, this is where you will find the vast majority of sex bloggers. You can use Twitter’s search box, related hashtags and the ‘similar account’ algorithms to find more sex bloggers than you can shake a body-safe dildo at.

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